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Ever found "love" in the lifestyle?
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Submitted by thunderchick (Female) on Wednesday - July 2, 2008
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As a single woman I recently indulged my interest in the "lifestyle" and hooked up with a local group. A nice guy, an ambassador of sorts, invited me out one evening to meet some other ladies in the group so I could get comfortable. It was a public outing, no play. Well, I met a guy there that night. We had sex and I figured that was that. Only, he called the next day..and the next, and so on. A few weeks later and we talk every day, see each other three or four nights a week. He is respectful and funny and kind. He's independent, single, smart, great in bed and, well, I'm pretty sure a guy doesn't send you a happy wake up calls at 8:30 in the morning if "they're not that into you".
I'm having a ball, and I think its hilarious how we met. Until I don't think it's hilarious. While I'm relieved that my bi-curious nature and interest in swinging doesn't have to be discussed, I have to wonder if its possible to find love in the club, particularly a lifestyle club? Or, as a newbie am I mistaking kindness for something else? Or, are there really some guys mature enough not to consider you a whore if they met you at a swingers gathering and banged you a few hours later?
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By: JaydubAndElle (Couple) on Wednesday - July 2, 2008
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There's actually some humor there, no disrespect intended, hopefully our reply doesn't come off that way.
First, the response to the initial question: Yes, of course you could find "love" in the lifestyle... "love" is found whever it rears its beautiful head. "Love" means different things to different people, but "love," nonetheless, is found just about anywhere the right combinations exist.
People in the lifestyle are no different from the general population, we're probably just a bit more honest about our fantasies and our sexuality. For us, love isn't bound tightly with sex... that's a creation of the mind, guided by a number of forces including social, political and religious.
The humor... "are there actually some guys mature enough not to consider you a whore if they met you at a swingers gathering..." WOW, if they consider a woman a "whore" for expressing and being able to be open with her sexuality, they don't belong in the lifestyle... and what the hell were they doing at a lifestyle event?
Are they "man-whores?" Anyone who thinks there are different standards for men than women is quite simply a misguided soul and probably not worth the efforts to convince him that you're not a "whore," any more than he is.
Personally, I like it when my wife's a "whore." 'Cause then I get to be a "man-whore!"
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