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The First Meet
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Submitted by maggielove (Female) on Wednesday - May 21, 2008
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You've exchanged emails; chatted via IM and the chatroom; talked on the phone and have (finally!) agreed to meet in person. What constitutes a fun, easy and relaxing first meet for you? Whether it is a single person meeting a single person or a single person meeting a couple or a couple meeting a couple. It's all new and exciting! Even you don't play the first time, is there something that helps to generate conversation, get you 'in the mood', etc. (a thesis isn't necessary---just a brief description!)
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By: poetwrit05 (Male) on Friday - July 11, 2008
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I believe we don't know what to expect on the first date, so that's where anxiety comes from ... fear of the unknown... expectations cause this anger or disinterest because a person reveals to be one way or another on the compter, but turn out to be something totally different when in person... this causes disinterest.... so going on first date means going out with courage to explore, no expectations, being totally honest in the beginninng on computer... and helping to set the tone to have fun, without being judemental, and allowing one to be themseleves so that we can remain be ourseleves... sorry for the essay
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By: Black_Erotic_X2C (Couple) on Sunday - June 29, 2008
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The Male wrote this.
We think a bar, social function, Dave & Busters or any place that can bring some kind of excitement can and will do it...the first meet is very hard especially if you are a new couple in the lifestyle or curious about the lifestyle. Which is why meet-n-greets are great if you can get the other party(s) to meet there also...and most of all leave the expectations at the door, have fun..the least that can happen is you make a friend weather it is sexually orf just social...it keeps everyone at ease and leaves the expectations invisible. You may not play that night but it definitely leaves a clear understanding of what may or may not happen in the future. We are new and we are learning as a couple how to feel at ease.
We also would like to thank some of the people we have met for making us feel comfortable and welcomed at the events.
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By: jandm698 on Sunday - May 25, 2008
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We keep the first date simple - no expectations, some place casual with fun drinks like TGIFridays for Applebee's. IF all parties agree to go some place after that we like pool or bowling - hey you get to see them bending over the table or bending over to lay the bowl down ;) - great!! 2nd dates are for the fun stuff for us! Key for us is no pressure. We just want to have fun!
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By: JaydubAndElle (Couple) on Thursday - May 22, 2008
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No expectations on the first meeting... if we wind up playing, great; if we don't wind up playing, great. If we don't click, great. Maybe we just wind up meeting and decide to get together again, any way we go, we have no expectations and hope the other people feel the same way.
As far as conversations go, we try not to linger on social commentary too long... after all, the reason we're meeting isn't exactly a mystery... we like to talk about lifestyle experiences and hope the mood and mutual feelings get generated.
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By: Spinner4Dinner on Thursday - May 22, 2008
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At home..... the hot tub is the relax... cloths are off so if the mood is there.. off to the bedroom we go.. Out.. we either ask the person(s) to join us at the hotel.. or they invite us.... and by then the
mood has already been set..
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