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People who are drama in the lifestyle
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Submitted by Coupleforfun06 on Wednesday - April 16, 2008
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We've been in the lifestyle for quite sometime and we've found that there are so many people who bring drama to it. At first we wondered if it was just us or was it really that many people in this that are drama. And from others we've talked with it definitely seems to be. Granded not everyone is going to click or be attracted and that's fine, we get turned down just like we get picked up no biggie. It's just funny how rude people are in emails and IM's, shit they would never say or do in person becomes okay when being a keyboard. Whatever happened to being polite? Well anyway back to my original question do any other's deal with people who are drama in the lifestyle?
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By: CANDYLICKERS (Couple) on Wednesday - May 7, 2008
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In this lifestyle like any other lifestyle, people are people first. SOme people thrive on drama (even as adults). We have been in the lifestyle for over 8 years and we have seen it all. We have learned to detect drama and messy people and move on. Reject us, that ok. We have come to realize who's missing out. And Coupleforfun06 you should feel the same way.
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By: hotboo on Friday - April 18, 2008
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see Tim sharing is caring...........
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By: insatiable2 on Friday - April 18, 2008
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Sheep have 3 holes Al ! I get the mouth ! You and Vik can fight over who finds out if the sheep has bats in the cave. Wait thats Drama dammmmm! NO FIGHTING!!!!!!!!!!!!
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By: hotboo on Friday - April 18, 2008
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i think Tim and Vik can share miss sheep.........i hear shhe is into group things............
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By: sexymami34 on Friday - April 18, 2008
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Your stupid for posting this.. get a grip on yourself1
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By: insatiable2 on Thursday - April 17, 2008
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Hey sheep dont do drama they think its baaaaaaaaad !!!!! Leave the LOVE EWE out of this forum !!!!
Thank you
Tim
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By: hotboo on Thursday - April 17, 2008
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so he resorted to sheep stealing......dang it Tim.....thats low
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By: Petrichor on Thursday - April 17, 2008
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Tim tried to steal my sheep. That's not cool.
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By: JaydubAndElle (Couple) on Thursday - April 17, 2008
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My oh my... and I feel so out of it! We've heard about people dropping from the site or not going to the chat room any longer because of all the drama but I'm so out of it, I don't see it.
I guess simple oblivion has it's benefits.
Life is way too short not to ride and too short to be concerned enough with others that it occupies any negative space in your life.
I guess I'll go hybernate now...
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By: eastbaysexy on Thursday - April 17, 2008
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You got rejected and now your calling other people on here STUPID! That sounds like DRAMA to me.
First of all, living in the Lifestyle doesn't mean its a free for all sex encounter with everybody on this site. It's the chemistry (attraction to other person) involved. If there isn't chemistry, then no connection. If you take rejection too seriously, then your the one with the problem-("DRAMA") I have experienced rejection and sure alot of other people have too. It's not normal human behavior to get so upset that you have to write a forum post on your rejection. Deal with it and forget about it, dude!!
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By: openhouse1 on Thursday - April 17, 2008
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The beauty and fun of being in an alternative life style such as this is that amongst other things it creates the room for mutually choosing and getting together with someone initially on the grounds of instant attraction, fantasy fulfillment or a shear mutual desire to play together with no strings attached. In a way I feel this is being marred right before our very eyes and like someone indicated already... this is how it all starts. Name calling and private incidents being brought out in the open.....I have had my share of drama too but I very quickly learned that there are an endless number of good and fun people here. Let's not end up being our own worst enemies. Good luck.
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By: katcouple (Couple) on Wednesday - April 16, 2008
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Any time you get a bunch of people in the same place, there will be drama. For some it swirls around them like a hurricane and they are sitting nice and comfy within the eye of the storm. It is best to avoid such people but sometimes you can't and you get sucked in before you know it. We are all human. We get our feelings hurt and we get angry and we all make mistakes. It is how you handle things after the fact that makes or breaks you in this place.
I try and avoid the drama-llamas, they just make me tired. I don't have the energy for them and their shit. I have only been in this for a short time and thankfully am out of it for the most part, as the gossip and drama made it tiresome and not enjoyable. I am utterly thankful to not have to bother with making dates and dealing with people on that level and I can sit back and watch from a safe distance as the various dramas unfold around me and be grateful that it's not my problem.
Life is too short to get wrapped up in drama. You have but one life to live on this planet (depending upon your religion of course) so why not try and make the most of it and enjoy yourself? Save the dramatics for high school plays, where it belongs
kristy
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By: hotboo on Wednesday - April 16, 2008
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ok the truth is that Tim came on to us........he really was heart broke i said no........it was very sad........but now he has moved on
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By: shells (Couple) on Wednesday - April 16, 2008
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Drama –a word use allot . There is no way to guard against someone putting that label on you whether deserved or not. My ? is who gets to decide what is drama & what is not. Clearly there are many different forms of drama for each person. What's drama to one is not to another.
When I think of drama, I think of people spreading lies, hurtful gossip, crossing boundaries, outright lying, cheating on spouses, making up stories about another couple to build themselves up or tear the other couple down.
I think when people get hurt for whatever reason, they tend to toss out the drama word. There are ways to handle issues when they comes up (and issues will come up). One way is to tell everyone you know about it over and over again (which creates drama- don't you think?). Another way is to handle it like a grownup. Talk to the person or couple directly, and work it out in private. If you have done something to upset someone - be big enough to say so & make an amends. Then move on.
The 1 thing I know 100% is not everyone is going to like you. You are not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. We all have a right to decide who we spend time with & who we don't. Finding 4 people who click is much harder than people think, but when you do it can be amazing.
I believe honesty & kindness are a must in this lifestyle! People need to understand that everyone gets rejected by people/couples from time to time. That is not drama. How you tell someone you aren’t interested can be. If you’re not interested , say so A.S.A.P!
Leading a couple on because you don't want to hurt them is worse than just speaking your truth.
On the other hand you have to let people know its ok to be honest w/you. It’s the hurdle we all have to get past when first meeting a new person/couple.
You chat online & its great! Then you meet & someone isn’t feeling the chem, that is not drama. How you relate that to the other couple & how it’s handled can turn into drama if not done in a sensitive way.
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By: maggielove (Female) on Wednesday - April 16, 2008
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Timmeh, you rock!
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By: maggielove (Female) on Wednesday - April 16, 2008
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Ignore it all and just move on; let them have their drama. You go on to have fun!
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By: insatiable2 on Wednesday - April 16, 2008
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We had a lot of Drama when we first got on. Shadeed, Joey, Vik and Al, tried to play with me (Tim) alone . They knew I was strait just couldnt take no for an answer. After a while they all gave up and moved on. We are always polite just somtimes it doesnt work but it worked with them.
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By: Spinner4Dinner on Wednesday - April 16, 2008
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So.... this is how drama gets started.. Think we will stay out of this one..... :)
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By: lunna (Female) on Wednesday - April 16, 2008
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'lol. too funny, you are correct couple , there is a lot of drama queens and kings in here and every other lifestyle site, pity people cant just seem to enjoy them selves and think they deserve everything, i get turned down , i get hit on , i get cursed and praised and you do not see me crying about it, but thats just me , just move on and away from the drama and you will be so much happier, let them live their soaps ... alone....
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By: Coupleforfun06 on Wednesday - April 16, 2008
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lmao god people are stupid. We actually werent referring to you at all. Unless u have more then one handle on here. Its stupid to assume because we wrote u that this posting was for u. Because it absoutely wasnt meant for u at all. As we said can care less about people not being interested. But since u wanted a post to be about u, when we wrote people are so stupid in the very beginning of this post u are definitely one of the ones we are talking about
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By: sexymami34 (Female) on Wednesday - April 16, 2008
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Yeah you wrote this because you IM'd me and I told you I wasn't interested.
Just get over it. It doesn't mean people have Drama in their life due to the fact they turned you down!!!
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