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Why do people have aproblem with being hotlisted?
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Submitted by 2hawtboos on Saturday - February 6, 2010
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I have seen in a few profiles where folks want to be aproached before being hotlisted and have wondered why
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By: Katydid on Saturday - March 27, 2010
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I think the same. I don't care if someone puts me on their hot list. Now that I know there is a block button (tks jorge), I'll just block any who get pesky lol
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By: two4fun408 on Sunday - March 14, 2010
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Getting upset if someone hotlists you is like a woman getting a boob job and becoming angery when someone looks at her breasts. If you don't want to be hotlisted then don't post pictures (it is an option on the site). Maybe the person hotlisting doesn't want to get to know you just likes what he or she sees. Sometimes people just need to get over themselves.
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By: 2hawtboos on Tuesday - March 2, 2010
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funny thing is it was just a question...........and never have got a answer
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By: Crawfish on Tuesday - March 2, 2010
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There goes Al always in the middle of contreversy......lol ... must be the raider fan in you......
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By: 2hawtboos on Monday - March 1, 2010
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because D&C you and others ask folks bot too........but that is my .02
and my use of the option is just that....my option
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By: shortyrockk (Female) on Monday - March 1, 2010
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In my opionion ....who cares really if they hotlist you or not. Sometimes people make to much out of nothin....I think i mentioned something bout bein hotlisted in our profile. But at the end of the day...i dont really care!! Hotlist til ur fingers are tired!!
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By: 2hawtboos on Monday - March 1, 2010
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lmao........oh well i guess it is a bad subject..........again i will just not notify folks in the future seeing as i use it as a book mark
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By: licyouslow on Saturday - February 27, 2010
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If someone does not wish to be hot-listed- simply don't hot-list them. It's really quite simple, I think that sending a email or letting the person(s) know that you actually are interested in them is the right way to go. Not making someone aware that you are interested in them, however choosing to hot-listing them is pretty rude in my book. ( just my thoughts)
Why hot-list people, and not let them know they are being "looked at" ??
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By: uygi on Sunday - February 21, 2010
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When they opt to send the notification, it's clearly an indication that they either are interested in contacting, or that they really like you and intend to keep in touch. Including it is a simple form of communication for sure.
I don't mind that, but a lot of single guys will both hotlist and message us. The pattern seems to usually be "I know you're not looking for guys, but please consider me anyways." We send the "No Thanks" message, and then a week or two later they hotlist us and send the notification with it. Lame! We don't really care, as that delete button is mighty convenient.
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By: dragonfly4 (Couple) on Monday - February 15, 2010
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Well if they are particular about being hotlisted you can always opt for not notifying them you hotlisted them.
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By: jorgeagomezt (Male) on Wednesday - February 10, 2010
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Sorry, forgot to add u to my hotlist, just made it , LOL.
Still want an email from me? lmao.
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By: MFMers (Couple) on Tuesday - February 9, 2010
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We thought it as a kind of "bookmark" to show each other at some other time, or for someone we want to come back to write to later. We're not too bothered by people hotlisting us, but we also don't take it as a sign of initial contact.
Just our two cents!
M&C
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By: 2hawtboos on Tuesday - February 9, 2010
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well hotlist the fuck out of us.....we dont mind.......if you want write us...we'll try to respond asap....if not no no worries
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By: jorgeagomezt (Male) on Tuesday - February 9, 2010
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As single guy, I feel flattered when someone adds me to their hotlist, and for the same reason I know the the 1st thing to do before adding is READING the profile, so if it says no guys, dotn even interrupt there, cause its manners issue there. And respect what everybody puts on ther profile as well.
I know that a lot of guys the first thing they do is adding, but what a heck are u goin to do if u add someone and this is not onterested at all for single guys, I mean come on, turn the light bulb inside the head and be coherent in your actions.
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By: Strawberryanise on Tuesday - February 9, 2010
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Hello,
It is interesting how other horny people deal with hotlists. Thanks for sharing yoru thoughts,
For our part, we don't consider being hotlisted as a first contact. We usually click to see what sexies are behind the handle, and if they look super delicious, we may be motivated to write. But it's kind of like being at a party when the dude across the room keeps staring but never approaches... we like people confident enough to write words to get our attention. When we initiate contact, it is alwasy through an email, not through a subtle (and subject to be misinterpreted) hotlist.
Yours, Anise and Marc
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By: e46man on Monday - February 8, 2010
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I agree about being able to view who is hotlisting you. I have a lot that hotlist me but very few emails. I understand I'm a single male so i do expect anything but wants the point having the hotlist?
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By: RnDCoupleSJ (Male) on Monday - February 8, 2010
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Oh, I agree that there's a lot of people who don't bother reading the profiles... "Oh, pretty - Hotlist"... That's how we get so many single men hotlisting us even though we ask that we not be contacted by them.
(As a former single man, I get it - It's tough... But if we're interested (and we are from time to time), we'll contact you).
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By: 2hawtboos on Monday - February 8, 2010
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welp i guess i am not going to get a answer from folks who want to be contacted 1st.....i agree it is a compliment and we also use it to see who is looking to see if there is a connecttion.....to each there own,but i do feel that alot of folks dont read the profile before listing......
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By: RnDCoupleSJ (Couple) on Monday - February 8, 2010
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It's a compliment to be hotlisted. Bit we are a bit confused if a hotlisted notification is a bookmark that someone will follow up later, or intended as "first contact". Since the option to hide the notification is there it could be "will write them later", but if it's first contact, we'd much rather hear from you in an email. We're not against 'em (and use them ourselves, though mostly with people we've been taking to as a bookmark system), but we do wish people would atke a moment to send us a more personal message.
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By: trike on Monday - February 8, 2010
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I find this to be an interesting question. I like to view this as "everybody is entitled to their own opinion" After all, this is America - "Land of the Free"! I often say "If everybody in this world was the same, it would be very boring." Hotlist's is no different than being out-n-about (maybe @ a club, coffee shop, mall etc.), & you catch somebody's eye (or vice-versa) and you give them a smile, wink or maybe even blow em a kiss (we all been there). It's all about the initial fun of flirting. The home page will show how many times your profile was viewed, but that's not the same as knowing who viewed you.
I think BC put together a great web-site. Offering several different "levels" of communication options (ie: hot list, IM or e-mails). Not to mention, everybody has the option to "turn-on/off" any level through the "preference page". Hats off the the webmasters!
If the hotlist & IM feature is turned off, they basically want to communicate via e-mail. I like the "Yes/No" of "add to hotlist" feature. A "Yes" it's a way to say "hey take a peek at my profile, to see if there's compatibility". If "No" perhaps your wanting to compose an e-mail at a later time. However, if after digging a little deeper (ie: READING the profile), you may have found they specifically stated their preference. (Yes, I do read the complete profile - lol)
If I add you to my "Hot List" - It means you stated "seeking" - Couples, Men and/or Women - I feel it's the least intrusive way to say (take a peek at my profile, to see if there's compatibility). On the flip-side, if you added me to your "hotlist" I consider it to be very flattering :-).
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By: shells on Sunday - February 7, 2010
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We don't mind being hotlisted at all - and we hotlist folks we know we want to keep in contact with, so we don't have to memorize all you lovely peoples ID's. Another site we're on also has the option to see who's VIEWED you, as well as the ability to FLIRT with another user. I sure wish that ability were available here on BC! That way I could flirt with the Boo's all day long!
M&M
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By: 2hawtboos on Sunday - February 7, 2010
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well there is the option also to not let folks know you are hotlisting them.......it is funny that no one has said why they request they know 1st
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By: Tripn on Sunday - February 7, 2010
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and my opinion too..
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By: licyouslow on Sunday - February 7, 2010
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Everyone has a preference.. thats pretty much how it should be viewed. Spending unneeded energy trying to figure out why someone would have an issue can leave you frustrated.
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By: SouthBayFreaks (Couple) on Sunday - February 7, 2010
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You can hotlist us anytime 2hawtboos *wink*.... LOL
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By: bnbfun222 on Sunday - February 7, 2010
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We think the hotlist is a good thing! It would be nice to be able to view the hotlist you are on rather than just who is on your hotlist....
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By: tightandwet650 on Sunday - February 7, 2010
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Yes there are a few profiles that make that statement. To us a hotlist is like a browser bookmark. It shouldn't matter to the people who have that profile if they are bookmarked, but apparently its a big deal to some.
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By: Strawberryanise (Couple) on Sunday - February 7, 2010
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We take it as a compliment when people hotlist us. Would anybody else like an ability to click and see the list of folks behind the number? Marc and Anise in San Ho
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By: jeepsterman on Saturday - February 6, 2010
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Are you sure it isn't being IM'ed without emailing first. I've seen this and can understand it, but not for hotlisting...what is the big deal about hotlisting someone? nothing..That is how I show my gf profiles when she is traveling... its fine with me
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By: 2hawtboos on Saturday - February 6, 2010
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I only hotlist so i can show Selena that persons profile
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By: ladydi5150 on Saturday - February 6, 2010
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I myself haven't a clue! I would think people would WANT to be hotlisted! I guess maybe that's just my opinion but.....
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